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How I Self-Care

In my line of work, people talk a lot about self-care to ensure that you do not forget to take care of yourself while being so wrapped up in taking care of others. Now that I have worked at my job for over a month, I have started to notice changes in my self-care routine. My nightly journal entries are often rushed. Sometimes there are long lazy lines my pen made as I started to doze off mid-sentence. If I exercise twice in one week, then it’s considered a good week. I eat unhealthy food late at night. My body struggles to recover from staying up all night for work. I find that I spend most of my days off inside, behind a computer screen. It has been weeks since I have done something for fun with friends. My job is going great, but my self-care is not. 

All of the self-improvement goals I thought were firmly implemented into my life have been thrown off balance by my new employment. There are a little more than three months until I turn 24 and, by then, I want to be on the right track in terms of my mental and physical health, my social life, and my rate of creative output. Hence, I think it is fitting that I update my goals to reflect my self-care goals. I want to be able to work full-time and also really focus on my own well-being.

The following are preliminary ideas I have for a quality self-care routine:

1. Pack healthy food to bring for work. With my current schedule, there are five meals I have to eat at work per week (one lunch, three dinners, and one breakfast). The breakfast is pretty easy to skip or to get away with just eating a piece of fruit, so it’s really those three dinners and one lunch about which I’m concerned.
a. Bring a healthy entree, but also bring healthy snacks in case there isn’t time for a full-            blown meal.
b. Make a salad from the salad bar and eat a vegetable side dish to satisfy your appetite               long enough before you get a break.
c. If the dessert looks like it’ll be really worth it, then eat a few bites or half of it.

2. Make plans with people for your days off. Find the people in your social network who may be free at any time during your free days and make a plan. See a movie. Get coffee. Get lunch. Go bowling. See a play. Something.
a. If no one is free, plan out your day doing something that is productive. Clean your                    room. Go to the bank. Go to the doctor. Complete a task that has been looming over                your head.
b. Additionally, make plans to do something that just makes you feel good. This can be              watching a TV show or lying outside or going for a bike ride. You name it. There are                  ways to be absolutely happy and content that are not dependent upon others.

3. Exercise as often as you can. Something I have discovered about myself is that I feel so good after a workout. It gives my whole day a brand new, shiny outlook. Based on my current schedule, my exercise schedule should be Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday before lunch, and then Saturday during my break at work.
a. Sign up for a fitness class on your day off or before 1:30 on weekdays to meet new                   people and peer pressure yourself into the workout.

4. Leave work at work. In other words, be completely present in work while at work, but leave it behind during my days off. Beyond a few sentences on how my day at work was, it should be out of my mind so I can relax.
a. Check work email once a day, but not before bed! This should reduce the frequency                of work-related dreams.

5. Use overnights for creative output. I’ve already started a few experimental writing projects during my two overnights so far. I would love to continue this, as the overnight is a time when I’m not supposed to be doing anything else. I can’t exercise or go outside. It’s the perfect time to sit behind a screen and write something!

6. Use those 66 hours well. Sometimes, it feels like I’m working ALL the time, but it’s not true. I did some quick math and discovered that I have 66 awake hours per week that I can use in whatever way I want!


First Day

mefirstdayorthoschoolTuesday was my first day of school, but this time I was not the student or even the teacher. I was the counselor. The dormitory counselor, to be exact, otherwise known as the person who spends every waking (and sleeping) hour with the kids when they are not in class. This school is different because the kids don’t leave; they live there. And for 40+ hours a week, I sort of live there, too. First days are special because you are often filled with all kinds of emotions: excitement, fear, nervousness, joy, and hope, to name a few. First days are magical because your impression of this new chapter in your life is completely untarnished by any negative experience that may be in your future. The first day is the most beautiful and pure experience you will ever have when it comes to that particular life journey. “Anything can happen,” you think. “Think of the people I will meet and the lives I will save.” But then, what comes after the first day is the real journey. The first day is just the beginning, as rose-colored and perfect as it is. After the first day is when relationships are built and progress is made–all the real important stuff. So, everyone, enjoy your first days, but look forward to everything the future holds!

I Got a Job!

I got the job! After lots of back and forth emails, phone calls, and missed phone calls, my background check finally went through and I received notice that I have officially been extended a job offer. And…I accepted! I will not pretend that this job is some kind of godsend or fairy tale. However,  I strongly believe that it is an excellent match to both my experience and interests. Without giving too much away for the sake of anonymity, I’ll tell you a little bit about my brand spanking new job. (I still have to figure out how confidentiality at the job works, but it’s safe to say that I probably won’t be able to say much about it here.)

The Job: I will be a dorm counselor at a residential school for severely emotionally disturbed children and adolescents. The school has a prestigious reputation within the mental health community for its effective therapeutic techniques in helping students grow and meet normal developmental benchmarks. Students are sent to the school with psychological issues that run the gamut from autism to bipolar disorder to schizophrenia (and a lot in between). Typically, students are sent to the school because the resources available to them at home and their traditional school are not enough to meet their diverse needs.

As a dormitory counselor, I play a vital part in successfully carrying out each student’s individual treatment plan. A member of the treatment team and the supportive therapeutic community, I monitor each student’s level of functioning and I collect data on their progress. In addition to planning therapeutic recreational activities, I also will utilize my counseling skills to provide support for all students and to promote pro-social problem-solving skills. When necessary, I will use nonviolent physical restraint methods that I will learn from my certification in Therapeutic Crisis Intervention to ensure everyone’s safety.

The school has students in elementary school and students in high school; they are separated into different dorms based on age and gender. This year, I will be working with the younger elementary-aged boys. The hours are irregular, which means that nothing is sacred. Not weekends, not nights, not Christmas–nothing. These kids need support 24/7 and that does not mesh well with a Monday-Friday 9-5 job. While I’ll only officially work 40 hours, there will be overtime for things like birthdays, graduations, and anniversaries (a way to celebrate the anniversaries of when students were first admitted to the school).

I am ready to delve into this adventure headfirst! I have already started brainstorming different activities I can lead with the students and I have started looking up research articles on the treatment the school follows. Now it’s time for the next chapter in my life. I have a college degree and I’m about to go use it. It’s an exciting time to be 23 and alive. 🙂